A prostate massager is an internal product shaped to reach forward towards the prostate, with a wide base that stays outside the body. That base is the whole reason this category is safe to sell, and it is the first thing to check on any listing anywhere. This guide explains the shapes, how the two products on this store differ, and how to start without rushing.
The shapes
There are two basic shapes. A massager has a longer, curved arm that reaches forward, often with a second arm or a wide base that rests against the perineum; the one here adds a wiggling tip that moves through patterns rather than simply vibrating. A plug is shorter and tapered, widest in the middle and narrow at the neck, so it sits in place without reaching; the one here rotates its upper section as well as vibrating. Massagers reach further and ask more of the user; plugs are the gentler start.
The flared base
Every internal product for him must have a base wider than the body of the product. Without it, an internal product can move beyond reach, and retrieval then needs a hospital. Both products here have a wide flared base and a narrow neck above it, which is the correct design. If you ever see a listing for an internal product with a plain rounded end and no base, close it.
How the two products differ
The app-controlled massager is about 13.5 centimetres overall with an 11 centimetre reach, from the maker's drawing, with nine wiggle patterns, a silicone body and USB charging. It is the product to choose if you already know a plug suits you and want the reach.
The rotating plug is about 10.3 centimetres long and 3.2 centimetres at its widest, again from the maker's drawing, with nine combined rotation and vibration patterns, a silicone body and USB charging. The taper and the shorter length make it the better first product. Both pair with the Love Spouse app named in their makers' instructions and both work from a button without it.
Buttons, patterns and the app
Both products run from a single button on the base: a long press switches on and off, a short press steps through the patterns. The massager cycles its nine wiggle patterns; the plug cycles nine combinations of rotation and vibration. Neither maker publishes a noise figure, and both products are quieter inside the body than in the hand, which is true of every internal product. With the app paired, the phone takes over the patterns and a partner can be handed control; the button still works to switch off. Charge over USB with the supplied lead; the makers do not publish charge or run times for either product, so plan on a full charge before use.
Starting
Wash the product and charge it fully. Use a generous amount of a water-based lubricant on the product and the body; silicone-based products can mark silicone. Go slowly, stop at any discomfort, and let the taper do the work rather than pushing. Start with the lowest setting and the product switched off if you prefer, and treat the first few uses as finding out what the shape does rather than aiming for anything. The rotating plug's narrow neck means it sits still once in place; the massager's arm rests against the body and the wiggle is felt rather than steered.
Cleaning and the base
Wash with warm water and a mild soap, rinse with the charging contacts away from the water, and dry fully before charging; neither maker publishes a waterproof rating, so do not submerge either product. The base and neck are where residue collects, so give them a moment with the soap.
When to choose which
First internal product: the rotating plug. Reach and movement after that: the massager. A partner who wants to take part at a distance: either, with the app, after reading the app guide.
